The Foundational Step to Lasting Healing


A few months ago a good friend of mine and I were talking about the healing journey I have been on and said to me “this is a process not an event.”  Indeed is!  From birth to grave we are either in process, growing or changing or stuck and stagnant.  Unfortunately for me and many others who have been deeply wound in childhood our emotional growth stops and gets stuck in some weird time warp and we seek to meet our unmet needs in unhealthy manners, like substance abuse, porn, or unhealthy relationships.  We may continue to fall victim to cycle of abuse in our adult relationships or tragically become abusers ourselves repeating the unhealthy way of relating others over and over again.

The good news is change and healing is possible; the bad news is it takes commitment, perseverance and facing our painful pasts. We didn’t become broken wounded people overnight and healing and healthy relating take time and walking through the process of identifying the root causes.

In the last six-eight months of life I have faced some very dark experiences that I have locked away in sealed vault deep within me.  I have realized that if I don’t face these things I will never be a healthy person relationally and I will inevitably return to unhealthy habits and relationships.  Been there done that and grown weary of broken ways of my life.

Throughout my life I have seen several counselors, took anti-depressants and anti-anxiety medications for well over 15 years.   I have ebbed and flowed in and out of relationships and friendships.  Yet I have felt alone and unfulfilled and like a broken misfit for many years.  None of the things mentioned healed the deep wounds and poor coping mechanisms I possessed.

However I in the past few months of counseling I have been able to work through the pain wounds of the relationship I had with my father.  He was one of the primary abusers in my life.  For the first time in forty five years I hold no ill-will towards the man.  Yes, I have been able to forgive him and relinquish and vengeance towards him.  In my book that is a huge step towards wholeness and health.

What made the difference?


First and foremost I believe becoming a Christian and consistently surrendering my life to him has been the key that has unlocked the door for healing.

I have discovered that God wants to take my wounds, pain, hurts and sorrow.  You know how you can love somebody so much, that you wish you could take their pain or suffering from them? That’s how Jesus feels about me and you… He loves us so much that He paid the price for our emotional healing in the work on the cross!  I absolutely love these verses from the book of Isaiah

Yet it was our weaknesses he carried; it was our sorrowsthat weighed him down.
And we thought his troubles were a punishment from God, a punishment for his own sins!
But he was pierced for our rebellion, crushed for our sins. He was beaten so we could be whole. He was whipped so we could be healed.                                                Isaiah 53:4-5 NLT

The knowledge that Jesus God’s beloved perfect son, he who knew no sin took on my pain and bore it on the cross so that I could be healed and whole; has profoundly impacted me.

My anguish, afflictions, grief pain and sorrow, Jesus took those things and paid the price for them with His own life.  What a comfort it is to know that God desires to heal my broken places, bind my wounds and restore me to right living.  Listen to the words of Psalms.

He heals the heartbroken and bandages their wounds. He counts the stars and assigns each a name. Our Lord is great, with limitless strength; we’ll never comprehend what he knows and does. God puts the fallen on their feet again                          Psalms 147:3-6 the Message

Counseling is helpful and often necessary but it is only a tool for true, significant and lasting healing.  Complete healing can only be found in a meaningful relationship with Jesus. This is the foundational step for long-term healing. Would you like to know how to make this first step?

Please feel free to write me a message here and I will share with you how to take that step.

Your comments and thoughts are welcomed and greatly appreciated.

~ by hopespassage on June 23, 2012.

7 Responses to “The Foundational Step to Lasting Healing”

  1. Hope thankyou for your testimony bless you and big hugs love Kath

  2. Hope…I truly thank you for pouring your heart out to help others. You will never know what it means to some who have read your words that I have counseled. Your pain… everyone elses gain? It really makes it easier to help them deal.. Thank you so much. I have Great Love for you and to you!!

  3. Hope, very well said. Love it!

  4. I am so blessed and encourage by what you share. It gives me hope for the future. Thanks

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